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I don’t have a clue about most of the things that are happening in my life. I just don’t. You may spend time planning where you want to be and what you want to do, but you really have no clue how that plan is going to pan out.
Ask a lot of successful people. They had a purpose, a vision, but they had no clue how they were going to get there. For example, when I was younger, my vision was to play in the National Hockey League, but I had absolutely no clue how to get there. It was shown to me day in and day out. People get frustrated because there’s never a direct line to what you want to achieve. It’s never that easy. To get to St. Louis, you have to pass through Pittsburgh. You keep your purpose in reach, but you have no idea what the ride will be like.
Things happen. People come into your life. And if you wake up without a clue as to how you’re going to reach your purpose, stay away from your negative thoughts. Be ready for the positive things that life will bring you today. If you pay attention to the things happening around you in your life, you will be shown the way.
When I would step on the ice for every game, they sang the National Anthem, and my vision was winning. It could be 5-2, we might lose, we might win, might be a tie, might be a fight, might be a penalty, etc. And I didn’t have a clue what was going to happen. The same scenario can be applied to everyday life.
When I leave Cherry Hill, N.J., I’m heading back down to the shore. The shore is my destination. I plan the route I’m going to take, but I don’t have a clue how it’s going to work out. There could be an accident, there could be traffic, I could be delayed, all sorts of things. You know where you want to go, but there could be a whole bunch of deviations and detours that were unexpected for multiple different reasons. But the detour could lead you to unique situations, so enjoy the ride.
Setbacks can be good. What about when I got traded from the Flyers to Toronto? I had no clue how this situation would pan out for me. But it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I got to spend two great years with my mentor, Jacques Plante, learning everything I had to learn about goaltending before I went back to Philadelphia. I made the best of that situation, and it ultimately got me closer to my purpose.
“I don’t have a clue,” is a cousin to risk and fear. You don’t know how this decision you’re about to make will affect your life, but you take the risk anyway and make the best of every situation and see where it leads you. You face that fear of the unknown. But guess what? If you let your fear paralyze you and remove you from taking risks, you won’t get any closer to your purpose.
The people who play it safe in life are often unhappy with how their lives have turned out.
I was talking to a fan at the game the other day, and she was talking about buying a home in Florida … but she was hesitant. She was giving every excuse and reason not to go through with it. I told her, “If that’s the way you feel, then don’t get it.” But I told her to reprogram her thoughts, think of that beautiful house in Florida, the beautiful weather, and if you keep that positive attitude, everything will work out. She has no idea how this will pan out, but her vision will get her there one way or another if she stays positive. All it takes is one step.
You may not have a clue, but pay attention to your vision, because it will be shown to you.
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Saturday is March 1st. It’s time to get in shape for the summer! It’s been a long winter (and it’s not over yet). This brutal winter has kept many of us indoors and stagnant. It has been easier to put our resolutions on hold than to face this cold. Let’s make the goals and decisions necessary to get in shape.
How many people don’t get to enjoy summer activities because they don’t feel comfortable with themselves? How many of you are missing great opportunities to do things with friends and family because of your own restrictions?
Ask yourself, if it was July 1st, and your kids wanted to go to the beach, would you feel good? Luckily for most of us, it’s not July 1st, and we still have four months to get in gear. Lets work to make sure we can’t give ourselves or our friends and family any excuses to not enjoy ourselves.
I’m lucky to be 68 and in shape. The healthier and happier you feel, the more good things happen for you.
When I need to get in shape and jumpstart my routine, I cut out sugar, carbohydrates and gluten. The best way to kick these three things to the curb? Google what each of these do to your body, and hopefully you never look back. Understanding the effects that sugar, carbs, and gluten have on your body will make cutting them out easier and all the more necessary. Feed your body, not your appetite. Eat for health, not for comfort.
Once you’ve successfully gotten your diet on track, exercise is next. It keeps you motivated, especially this time of year. For example, if you get up in the morning and you’re down on yourself, you will only keep going in circles. You have to have a purpose, and that goes for anything in life. I’m going hunting in Colorado in seven months. Every day, I wake up to a picture of the place we’re going to hunt. It becomes my motivation and purpose to eat right, stay in top shape, and prepare for this trip.
If your purpose is to make it to the beach with your kids this summer, put a picture of the beach in plain view of where you lay your head to rest at night and you will wake up to be reminded of your purpose every day. From there, you will make your goals to eat right and get in shape in order to achieve that purpose.
And maybe you’re not worried about the way you look. What you’re really worried about is the way you feel. And you can most certainly change that.
In reality, your purpose could be anything. Maybe you have a project coming up in the next couple months, or maybe you’re building something. Define it. Desire it. It will give you the energy to wake up every day and chase it. You have something to look forward to. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. As long as you keep it in sight and set attainable goals to reach it, you can do anything.
A lack in passion and purpose will lead to a loss of control over your life and success. Do you feel as though you are prohibited by your current situation and you cannot find the method to regain control of your own fate and circumstances? There is a three step process to salvage your sanity and success, and it all starts with passion.
Confucius once said, “If you love what you do, you will never work a day in your life.” Every person has at least one passion in life, but finds it hard to make it work for them. For some it may be sports, or painting, or helping others. Whatever it is that fires you up inside, take the second step and envision it.
People may mistake vision with purpose. You have a vision, a dream, and the purpose is your substance, your outcome. Once you reach your purpose, you can’t just stop. It is a cycle.
My personal, favorite example of how passion, vision, and purpose are facilitated is good, ole’ Mr. Ed Snider. Mr. Snider is passionate about the game of hockey, he visualized one day owning a team in the National Hockey League, and achieved his purpose by building his team. He grabbed hold of his passion and used his vision to build it. He visualized what he wanted his team to be and acted upon it accordingly. The outcome, the Philadelphia Flyers, was his substance and he made it tangible.
But he never stopped.
Mr. Snider’s purpose changed to winning the Stanley Cup. Eventually, it changed to building a new arena. See the cycle?
He visualized how to accomplish these tasks, and once he did, he moved on to the next one.
Mr. Snider’s purposes and visions have impacted Philadelphia greatly. Thousands and thousands of people have benefited from his work; from management to players to fans to employees to builders, etc. Not only did he bring an NHL franchise to a city that is passionate about hockey and the joy of the game, the philanthropic and economic impact he has had on this city is undeniable with all of the jobs and projects he has created such as the Ed Snider Youth Hockey Foundation, Flyers Charities, etc.
Before 1974, Philadelphia was in the dumps; things weren’t going well for the city. People needed something to be happy about. Mr. Snider ultimately gave the people of Philadelphia back their excitement and passion with the winning of championships. His purpose and visions revived a city plagued by depression. And 40 years later, people are still talking about it.
Let’s think of it this way. I’ve been discussing a fishing tournament for this upcoming summer. I visualize the boat and preparing for the tournament, but at the end of the day, if I don’t have a purpose — in this case being the winner of the tournament — I just have a boat floating in the water. Your purpose is connected to your passion, what you love to do. Make your passions your purpose, visualize the steps you need to take, and act on them.
My passion as a child growing up in Canada was obviously the game of hockey, and there was a goaltender by the name of Jacques Plante. I would watch Plante every Saturday night, Hockey Night in Canada. I was only 10 or 12 years old, and when we took it to the streets, I would become him. During the playoffs, I envisioned myself there. I took his place.
I wholeheartedly wanted to be a goaltender in the National Hockey League. And it’s funny, when you reach your purpose, it is very seldom the way you may have visualized it. I’ve dreamed many times about winning a championship with a shutout. My purpose was winning the Cup, but I visualized it being a shutout. When I look back today, we did win the Cup – twice — but it was nothing like what my vision had been.
When you visualize, you’re gliding, everything is smooth, almost like you are on a cloud. But when you’re physically experiencing your vision and you are in the moment, don’t let the bumps and barriers in the road stop you from reaching your purpose. Because nothing is exactly the way it may seem or turn out the way you had planned it. At the end of the day, you have to have something you’re shooting for (and not my head, please).
I recall a time in my life that I didn’t have a purpose. I hung around with people that did nothing, had nothing, and life just sucked. I became that person, too. One day, I had a moment of clarity, slammed my fist down on the table, and I told myself that I would never live this way again. If you find yourself in this situation, search yourself to find what it is you love to do. Some people may say that what they love to do won’t bring them any financial gain, but I’m here to tell people that once you take the first step, people that you don’t even know will come into your life and help you succeed. The process will take care of itself. Once you believe in this, that my friends, is when the magic happens.
Your purpose in life doesn’t have to be financial. It can be physical, mental, part of a recovery, etc. Don’t just say “I want to be successful.” Be specific. You want to be sober. You want to lose 100 lbs. And the key to my success right now is recognizing that my passion, vision and purpose could apply to every aspect of my life emotionally, physically, financially, etc. You have to remember that if you don’t like your current situation, you are the only one that can change it.
Structure your passion, vision, and purpose one step at a time. Set small goals to lead you closer to your purpose. And once you have reached it, create another one. Have as many purposes as you like, either simultaneously or one at a time. Someone is sitting out there right now, whether they’re 15 or 85, and they’re reading my articles. They may find that they are passionate about something and they’re visualizing how it may play out.
The next step is to take action, baby.
Get off your ass and find out what it’s all about. Explore your passion. Do some research. Become a participant, not a spectator. You have the ability to succeed, my friends.
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